Meeting People

If you hang around Wattpad for a while you’re probably going to make some friends: people who like the same kinds of stories you do and will give you advice on your writing. That’s one of the great things about this place, but you also need to know that anywhere on the Internet there are a small number of people who are trying to get teens involved in relationships they’re not ready for. 

These people don’t usually try to hide who they are or what they’re interested in: instead, they find somebody they think is vulnerable and shower them with attention and compliments. 

It’s normal to be flattered or even excited when someone new pays attention to you, but remember that romantic relationships between teens and adults are never a good idea. 

People you meet online also aren’t a great resource for learning about healthy sexuality! There are great expert resources available you should use instead, like or About Sex.

When you’re talking to someone online, watch out for signs that they’re grooming you for a sexual relationship:

If any of those happen, make up an excuse to get out of the conversation and tell your parents or another adult that you trust right away. Then use the Mute User function or Block User function to keep them from contacting you and Report the user to the administrators. If they sent you inappropriate messages or images, or threatened you in any way, you should save copies in case you need them later. The BC Society of Transition Houses’ Preserving Digital Evidence Toolkit has good tips on how to do that. 

Never meet up with someone you’ve met online without telling your parents first. (If you’re not living with your parents, tell a friend who can come with you, or another adult you trust.) Make sure to arrange to meet them in a public place that you can leave easily if you need to. Trust your instincts: if you don’t feel comfortable for any reason, leave. 

Facts about unhealthy online relationships:

Sharing photos and videos

If you’re thinking about sharing sexual photos or videos with anyone online, you should know that they might make a copy and could share it later. But remember that nothing you have done ever gives someone the right to abuse you, even if you did send them a photo or video or gave them your password. It’s also important to know that you won’t get in legal trouble if you seek help: governments and police in both Canada and the United States are clear that if someone is sharing sexual photos or videos you sent them, or using them to blackmail you, “you are not the one who is breaking the law.”

If someone does share a sexual photo or video of you, or just an embarrassing one, check out the MediaSmarts tip sheet Help! Someone Shared an Image of Me Without My Consent.